A Happy Look at 2018, Hello 2019!

On 31 December, 2017 I outlined eight what-could-be-termed-as advices for us to follow as we delved into 2018. I know you’ve forgotten them, maybe you missed them, maybe you had not yet come across this site, well, worry not! Continue reading

A Cupful of Action to Your Faith


Do not just hope for great things, act towards achieving them for faith alone cannot do.

That’s some quote that was pasted on my friend’s wall in college…well, a version of it I guess. I’ve looked at this quote for two years but it never rang in me that it would be a perfect opener for one of my posts. Well, now it is!

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Essentials for a Happier Life: IV. Let Go of the Past, Live Now.

I strongly think believe there is nobody out here who enjoys dwelling on their past misfortunes, mistakes or failures…no-bo-dy. There is a simple reason as to why such a habit is not enjoyable: it robs one off of the preciousness of their present. Simple. This post will be as brief as a yawn as it simply but deeply highlights this assertion.

“Holding on to your unhappy past robs you off of the preciousness of your present”

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Essentials For A Happier Life: III. Cut Off The Valueless (Part Two)

Like I said last Friday, today we unveil the second category of what should be regarded as pointless things; things that rob you off of your precious time and energy. You can never succeed in life if lots of your time is spent on valueless things hence this second part of this third essential focuses on the behavioural part of the valueless:

  1. Time Consuming Habits and Bad Addictions

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Essentials For A Happier Life: III. Cut Off The Valueless (Part One)

We last talked in January, I’ve bounced back!

For the most part of our messed up lives we find ourselves clinging on to things that really don’t matter…at all. We find ourselves incarcerated in a web of people and behaviors (or rather habits) that we never realize are not worth our time and effort – all because of our inability to cognize that these things are messing up our ‘supposed-to-be-great’ lives. So sit back, relax and lend me your attentive eyes and mind whilst I try to help you remove such unnecessary things on your journey to happiness. Ready? 1, 2, 3 lets soar en route to a happier life!

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Motivate Yourself

I gave birth to this post whilst taking a shower…

Many a time we find ourselves holding back something which is important just because we don’t feel motivated. Many a time we give ourselves excuses for not doing something, although it hurts us to see ourselves not doing what we are supposed to be doing.

We have passions but we hide them. We have dreams but we don’t pursue them. We don’t put in work. And we end up feeling bad for our lack of action. We feel sorry for ourselves for failing to be extremely passionate about our passions.

“If you want to be somebody in this world, stop giving yourself excuses, motivate yourself and get things going”

Seconds turn into minutes. Minutes into hours. Hours into days. Days into weeks. Weeks into months. Months into years. And we just…waste our lives. We waste our talents and time whilst doing things that don’t actually matter like browsing through our Instagram feed (or whatever keeps you from doing important things) when we could have been writing that song, novel, poem, play or whatever our different passions.

But why is this so? Taking it from me, and other people I’ve ever had this discussion with, I have come to realise that in most cases, we just lack motivation, something to push us into action. We want to feel inspired to do what we love. We know that we are capable and able, but we just…lack motivation! This is natural but then we tend to wait for others to motivate us. The question I have is; who are we waiting for to motivate us and why?

Through this post, I seek to tell you that you have yourself baby, and that’s 100% enough for you to get into action! Isn’t it ridiculous that we admit that we lack motivation and then go about seeking for it somewhere? Doesn’t the very fact that we realise that we lack motivation stand as a motivator for us to start doing something about our passions?

“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.” – Wayne W. Dyer

Isn’t it enough to say “I know I have a purpose to fulfil in this life” and then do something about it? Because you and I both know that the purpose we are meant for is not to scroll down through Twitter, Instagram or Facebook timelines – for no reason. I don’t mean to say that doing so is problematic all the time though. It becomes a problem when it prevents and stops you from doing things that really matter.

So having gone through 440 plus words by now, I think you’ve seen that you definitely don’t need no motivation from someone else. You can and have to motivate yourself. Whatever pushes you back, tell that annoying thing that you have a contribution to make to the world. Tell that nasty thing that you live for a purpose. You only have yourself to do that for you so start motivating yourself and working on that dream today. And oh, don’t we only have today since tomorrow is never promised? So start today, don’t give yourself excuses and don’t wait for tomorrow.

“Dreams don’t work unless you do.” – John C. Maxwell

As for me, when I sing along to John Forte’s ‘Nervous’ I substitute that ‘John’ name for ‘Victor’ in the lines:

“As with all things one day I’ll be gone from here / But not before I tell the world that John was here”

So brethren, what dost thou choose? To lock that passion up and live a purposeless and regrettable life all in the name of ‘lacking motivation’ OR to motivate yourself, put in work, get things done and pour your passion to the thirsty masses out there? The choice is yours, but if you want to be somebody in this world, stop giving yourself excuses, motivate yourself and get things going!

And…only people who love themselves motivate themselves!

That’s it, really.


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Loving Thyself


A lot of writers have written about how you can love yourself, what loving yourself means, the beauty behind loving yourself and other things like that. The fact that many people have written about ‘loving yourself’ keeps this subject as important as any important subject there is out there. Perhaps before diving deeper into this subject you should realise the real and ultimate importance of loving yourself.

No life is worth living if you don’t love yourself. Why? Because your life is about you. Whenever you say life is good or life is bad, you’re talking about your life, and nobody else’s. That’s why you have to realise that your life’s goodness or severity depends on how you nourish it. So when everybody talks about life, it’s theirs they are talking about hence the unquestionable need to love your life; yourself. I want to share a unique way of how you can start to love yourself. Don’t want to waste your time so this message will be as short as Kevin Hart. 1, 2, 3 bang! Let’s go!

In a world where conformity or fitting in proves to be one of the undoubtedly core reasons to anxiety, depression and other emotional-related problems, you are left hanging in the air if you are busy seeking to fit in and be accepted, when other people are escalating high up in their dreams. Seeking to fit in is problematic in many ways, the pivotal one being making you not to live life as you wish and as you are supposed to do. Seeking to conform and fit in sucks the great life out of you. But every problem has its own solution, thanks to the gods of possibilities.

“Seeking to conform and fit in sucks the great life out of you”

Instead of trying to live in accordance to other people’s set standards which do not clearly marry with your inner picture of a happy living, instead of trying to change yourself, trying to fit in, trying to be acceptable to some people, trying to be loved, all you have to do is change your self-perception and start to accept who you are – a normal human being with a unique life. You want to fit in? The negative opinions of others make you feel down? You desperately want to be loved? My dear, stop that! Just…stop that! Who are you living for?

Get to understand that there are things you can change and others that you clearly can’t change. So what things can’t you change? Your looks, your voice, your family members. Accepting these things leads to a happy life for you get to be at perfect peace with your soul and sing that ‘It Is Well with My Soul’ song happily as you mean every single word of it. Accept how you look, nobody has to tell you you’re not beautiful, beauty is subjective and even if it weren’t, you never chose to look the way you are, you are what you are and you’re unique in that way. Never be like Pecola Breedlove from The Bluest Eye, living by the definitions of others.

Acceptance comes together with changing your outlook on things. Nobody is perfect, you probably know this. Start to see yourself differently. Start to see your life differently. Start to see yourself as a complete human being who deserves to be loved, respected, accepted, and cared for, remembered etcetera. Unless you dress yourself with positive energy, good vibes, you’ll carry yourself with a negative air. And aren’t negative people not attractive? Yeah, my sentiments exactly.

“Start to see yourself differently. Start to see your life differently. Start to see yourself as a complete human being who deserves to be loved, respected, accepted, and cared for, remembered…”

Nobody will make your life worthier living than yourself. The ‘start’ button of a happy life is yours to press. Nobody will love your life as much as you love it – unless maybe your momma and Jesus – but, nobody, I repeat nobody, will love you as much as you love yourself if you don’t love yourself. Lovers will love us greatly but they’ll do so because they themselves love themselves first. If you love yourself so much, you’ll learn to love others so much and in return you’ll receive just as much love as you deserve – when you love necessary people of course. You’ll love others just as you love yourself for you know the value of love having desperately needed it before.

So LOVE THYSELF. Don’t care about what anybody says. YOUR LIFE IS ABOUT YOU AND NOBODY ELSE. You only live once so why don’t you live that life up now? You’re unique, perfect in your imperfections. Love thyself and accept who you are by changing how you look at yourself and the things and people around you. Your life, as perfectly imperfect as it is, is worth living, ask Justin Bieber. I want you to be happy and live life to the fullest so LOVE THYSELF!

That’s it, really.


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