The Mystery Blogger Award

Quoting the words of Okoto Enigma, the creator of this great award,

“The ‘Mystery Blogger Award‘ is an award for amazing bloggers with ingenious posts. Their blog not only captivates; it inspires and motivates. They are one of the best out there and they deserve every recognition they get. This award is also for bloggers who find fun and inspiration in blogging and they do it with so much love and passion”

It was pretty shocking when I read this quotation here from The Inquisitive Writer, the wonderful blogger who nominated me for this award here. Why shocking? Because this blogger is an exceptional one, with a captivating and beautiful writing style, and thinking that I was one of the people she considered worthy of this honour made me jolly. Well deserved is her reception of this award and nominating me is just amazing.

So am I very happy? Yes, as happy as ants on the mouth of a honey bottle! With just two posts out, it’s undeniable that I’m a newbie to blogging but things keep getting better. What more motivation does a brother need if not being sure that his work is considered captivating, inspiring and motivating? Thank you The Inquisitive Writer for this recognition, I receive it appreciatively.

3 Facts About Me

  1. I abhor racists, and racism as an abstract whole, highlight the abhorrence.
  2. I stand for what I believe in and make sure my opinions are known, really.
  3. I sometimes think only sorting things out in my head is not enough so I grab my phone, turn on the recorder, and start recording my thoughts, pretending to be conversing with someone else all the way (kinda weird or/and funny right?)

My Best Post Is…

Loving Thyself, based on the likes, comments and the viewership I got from it, being my first post.

My Nominees

  1. Cmoas
  2. The Honest Flabber
  3. wordscan’tfathom
  4. DaytonArts
  5. My Journey

And all my followers who work hard to change somebody’s life out here, receive this nomination, love you all.

Rules

  1. Put the award logo/image on your blog
  2. List the rules
  3. Thank whoever nominated you and provide a link to their  blog
  4. Mention the creator of the award and provide a link as well
  5. Tell your readers 3 things about yourself
  6. You have to nominate 10-20 people
  7. Notify your nominees by commenting on their blog
  8. Ask your nominees any five questions of your choice; with one weird or funny question (specify)
  9. Share a link to your best post(s)

Answers To The Inquisitive Writer

  1. My iPhone, love it!
  2. As I write, I’ve been blogging for 18 days only
  3. Detroit, Michigan
  4. I seek to inspire, motivate and entertain people as much as possible
  5. Yes! Chicken noodle soup.

My Questions To The Nominees

  1. Apart from blogging, how else do you spend your time?
  2. What is your favourite fashion style?
  3. What favourite quote do you live by?
  4. What would you say is your great accomplishment by now?
  5. Do you know any famous guy who’s shorter than Peter Dinklage? (the funny question)

Once again, I’m happy for this award, thank you uncountable times The Inquisitive Writer!

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The Versatile Blogger Award

Just two days ago, I got The Versatile Blogger Award, for the first time. I take this time to try to craft thankful words for Cmoas, the wonderful blogger who recognises me all the time and has seen it proper to nominate me. However, I fail to do so because words are superfluous and cannot really express the deep appreciation that crowns my heart right now. So, to keep it short and honest, thank you Cmoas. I am not even a month old to blogging yet someone recognises my work so it is a precious moment for me, I am thankful and I promise to keep blogging and change somebody’s life out there!

I recommend that if you are reading this post, relax and visit the amazing Cmoas blog, you will thank me later 😊

Rules:

  • You have to thank the person who nominated you and provide a link to their blog! (Being kind)
  •  Link the nominees and inform them about their nomination (passing the love, that was given)
  • Nominate at least 15 bloggers of your choice (At least)
  • Share 7 facts about yourself (being truthful)

7 Facts about Me:

  1. I am a final year student the University of Malawi, Chancellor College
  2.  I am a passionate part time (for now) singer and rapper
  3.  I also write poetry and stories
  4.  I sometimes remodel my purchased clothes and design some for myself
  5. I highly value God, Family, Friends and Other People in that order
  6.  I never give up on things easily
  7. I believe I am a winner and that no one is a loser till they say it to themselves

My Nominees:

  1. The Honest Flabber
  2. The Inquisitive Writer
  3. DaytonsArts
  4. My Journey
  5. wordscan’tfathom
  6. Evelina
  7. A Glimpse of Darkness

Deeply appreciate Cmoas and all my followers. Peace out!

Being Judgemental

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Me: “This cake is not sweet”

You: “How do you know?”

Me: “Can’t you just see how it looks?”

Don’t I sound stupid here? We’ll get back to this later…

Being judgemental is defined as ‘having or displaying an overly critical point of view’. The words worth paying attention to, in this definition, are ‘overly’ and ‘critical’. You’re referred to as a judgemental person when you tend to be fault-finding, always searching and finding wrongs in other people. I have been among judgemental people, observed and understood them so in this post I highlight how judgemental people come across and the impression they put on people, something they might not know.

“The face is to a person what the cover is to a book – and we don’t judge a book by its cover”

A judgemental person judges people on face value, name or reputation. He acts as a ‘character’ detector.  He is the kind of person who just sees someone’s face and think and talk negatively about them. The kind who ‘can’ tell whether you are ‘morally loose’ just by seeing your face or your dressing. He tends to read faces and know people even without talking to them. He doesn’t care about your story, he doesn’t want to know it, just seeing you or a little conversation is enough for him to evaluate you. Our dear friend here, if you are lucky, will get your story from other people and judge you from that. He doesn’t want to hear your part, understand you or get to know you himself. All he does is censor wrongs and criticise, without fully understanding you and getting to know you himself.

“When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself” – Earl Nightingale 

So how do we speak of this guy? If we say he is negative, are we wrong? Of course we are not, it’s only right to say so. Judgemental people are negative people. Yes, we all judge others but what differs is the way we do it. If you are going to judge somebody, you ought to use critical thinking and use sound evidence. Be able to back your judgement up. Provide reasons for judging that other person and most importantly, get to understand them first. You don’t just wake up, meet a person once and rate them. There is more to them than meets the eye. Don’t judge a person on face value, name or reputation. The face is to a person what the cover is to book – and we don’t judge a book by its cover; the outside doesn’t always define the inside. You have to get to know them fully and be in their shoes before you pass judgements on them. Unless you’re God, knowing all people’s stories, don’t judge…really, don’t judge.

“You get to know the sweetness of a cake when you taste it, not when you see it”

Now back to the cake issue. Say you like cake, do you get to know the sweetness of it before you taste it? Exactly…no. You get to know the sweetness of a cake when you taste it, not when you see it. What this implies is that you have to get to know why the other person acts the way they do; why they dress the way they do, why they speak the way they do, why they walk the way they do etcetera. Don’t just jump into conclusions. If you just judge people any way you want without understanding or getting to know them first, you come off as a hypercritical person. As said a paragraph ago, judgemental people are negative people. And don’t people prefer to associate themselves with positive people to negative people?

“Even God doesn’t propose to judge a man till his last days, why should you and I?” – Dale Carnegie

As human beings, we feel better when in the presence of positive people and so we tend to get attracted to them. On the other hand, negative people repel us. Take it or leave it, if your life is to be a happy one, you will always need and want other people to break bread with, be it in the work place, at school, at church, at home, etcetera, so you need to be positive and not negative. So stop being judgemental, it’s not fattening.

That’s it, really.

 

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Loving Thyself

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A lot of writers have written about how you can love yourself, what loving yourself means, the beauty behind loving yourself and other things like that. The fact that many people have written about ‘loving yourself’ keeps this subject as important as any important subject there is out there. Perhaps before diving deeper into this subject you should realise the real and ultimate importance of loving yourself.

No life is worth living if you don’t love yourself. Why? Because your life is about you. Whenever you say life is good or life is bad, you’re talking about your life, and nobody else’s. That’s why you have to realise that your life’s goodness or severity depends on how you nourish it. So when everybody talks about life, it’s theirs they are talking about hence the unquestionable need to love your life; yourself. I want to share a unique way of how you can start to love yourself. Don’t want to waste your time so this message will be as short as Kevin Hart. 1, 2, 3 bang! Let’s go!

In a world where conformity or fitting in proves to be one of the undoubtedly core reasons to anxiety, depression and other emotional-related problems, you are left hanging in the air if you are busy seeking to fit in and be accepted, when other people are escalating high up in their dreams. Seeking to fit in is problematic in many ways, the pivotal one being making you not to live life as you wish and as you are supposed to do. Seeking to conform and fit in sucks the great life out of you. But every problem has its own solution, thanks to the gods of possibilities.

“Seeking to conform and fit in sucks the great life out of you”

Instead of trying to live in accordance to other people’s set standards which do not clearly marry with your inner picture of a happy living, instead of trying to change yourself, trying to fit in, trying to be acceptable to some people, trying to be loved, all you have to do is change your self-perception and start to accept who you are – a normal human being with a unique life. You want to fit in? The negative opinions of others make you feel down? You desperately want to be loved? My dear, stop that! Just…stop that! Who are you living for?

Get to understand that there are things you can change and others that you clearly can’t change. So what things can’t you change? Your looks, your voice, your family members. Accepting these things leads to a happy life for you get to be at perfect peace with your soul and sing that ‘It Is Well with My Soul’ song happily as you mean every single word of it. Accept how you look, nobody has to tell you you’re not beautiful, beauty is subjective and even if it weren’t, you never chose to look the way you are, you are what you are and you’re unique in that way. Never be like Pecola Breedlove from The Bluest Eye, living by the definitions of others.

Acceptance comes together with changing your outlook on things. Nobody is perfect, you probably know this. Start to see yourself differently. Start to see your life differently. Start to see yourself as a complete human being who deserves to be loved, respected, accepted, and cared for, remembered etcetera. Unless you dress yourself with positive energy, good vibes, you’ll carry yourself with a negative air. And aren’t negative people not attractive? Yeah, my sentiments exactly.

“Start to see yourself differently. Start to see your life differently. Start to see yourself as a complete human being who deserves to be loved, respected, accepted, and cared for, remembered…”

Nobody will make your life worthier living than yourself. The ‘start’ button of a happy life is yours to press. Nobody will love your life as much as you love it – unless maybe your momma and Jesus – but, nobody, I repeat nobody, will love you as much as you love yourself if you don’t love yourself. Lovers will love us greatly but they’ll do so because they themselves love themselves first. If you love yourself so much, you’ll learn to love others so much and in return you’ll receive just as much love as you deserve – when you love necessary people of course. You’ll love others just as you love yourself for you know the value of love having desperately needed it before.

So LOVE THYSELF. Don’t care about what anybody says. YOUR LIFE IS ABOUT YOU AND NOBODY ELSE. You only live once so why don’t you live that life up now? You’re unique, perfect in your imperfections. Love thyself and accept who you are by changing how you look at yourself and the things and people around you. Your life, as perfectly imperfect as it is, is worth living, ask Justin Bieber. I want you to be happy and live life to the fullest so LOVE THYSELF!

That’s it, really.

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